July 30, 2018 by maryruwe
Everyone knows that words are powerful; speaking positively over our children helps to build self-confidence. Actually, speaking positively about ourselves helps to build our confidence. How much better it is when we speak the Word of God over our children and ourselves! But let’s go further into the power of words. Let’s realize that the tone of our words carry power too.
We learn from Proverbs 15:1 that a soft answer turns away wrath; but grievous words stir up anger. Let’s break down this statement.
- Soft is the opposite of harsh; it is gentle and moderate, avoiding extremes and lessens the intensity of a situation or conversation.
- Answer means a reply; not only the words but the tone.
- Wrath manifests itself with uncontrolled violent anger and rage.
- Grievous means oppressive or causing suffering.
- Anger is a strong feeling of displeasure.
- Turn away means to influence a desired end by taking a different direction.
- Stir means to mix, excite, and to move to activity.
So how does this work? It works by monitoring our heart in order to monitor our words; words are a heart issue that manifests in our speech.
Ephesians 4:15 teaches that we are to speak the truth in love. When confronting someone with something that needs corrected, we are to speak that truth with love and softness, rather than harshness and accusations. The flip side to that is also true when we are confronted about something. We are to reply with softness with our answer. The road travels both ways, as the saying goes.
Remember, it’s easier to take corrective criticism when we feel safe from harsh accusations. Most people don’t like confrontations and I think it’s because they relate to it as an argument! That doesn’t have to be the case. As adults we should be able to confront someone, or be confronted, and have a discussion with self-control of our words and emotions. Don’t allow the devil to use your words to stir up strife, anger, contentions; hurting those you love.
If anyone has trouble with their words, they need to check the condition of their heart, for the Bible teaches in Matthew 12:34 that “out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks”. What we fill our hearts with the most is the basis of our attitude, how we think and speak. Everyone needs to monitor their thoughts regularly and precisely to be able to control their words and how they are spoken.
O Lord, help us to realize that speaking the truth in love has the mission of helping up to grow up in you, joining us together, increasing, and edifying with love. Heal our hearts of hurts that pose themselves to easily offend us and let the truth of Your Word set us free.
For further study:
Matthew 15:18 Those things that proceed out of the mouth (our words) come forth from the heart and they (the result of our words) defile (corrupt, dishonor) the man. Of course then, the opposite can also be true: words can build and create.
Philippians 4:8 gives us instruction on what we should think on: things true, honest, just, pure, lovely, of good report. I call this verse the measuring stick for my thoughts.
Proverbs 18:21 states that “Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof”.